A relationship without chemistry or attraction is merely a friendship. While many will argue that sex isn’t a big deal, physical intimacy does play a huge role in the development of a healthy, romantic relationship. When a couple is no longer enjoying one another in the bedroom, the relationship is bound to face a very rocky and unstable period. When one individual is enjoying the sexual interaction and the other no longer feels pleased, the problems that arise could be detrimental to the entire bond.
The toughest part about existing in a relationship with a man who fulfills your emotional needs but leaves you longing for physical pleasure, is having to tell him that you aren’t satisfied. The male ego is extremely fragile. Those who truly love their man and care about the fragments of his heart, do their best to never make him feel embarrassed or ashamed. However, guarding your man’s feelings by not openly expressing disappointment or dissatisfaction, can sometimes create an internal frustration.
When a man is not physically pleasing your body, the first step you should take is to whisper in his ear during sex. In a very low and soothing tone, you should tell him exactly where to touch you next or how to move certain body parts. Most men don’t want to feel controlled in the bedroom. However, many men are aroused by the act of their partner verbalizing what they want done to them. A Dominant man reaches his peak when his partner appears to be most submissive. As a result, whispering your desires to your man, and allowing him to take charge of those subtle, verbal commands is exactly what you need in order to be physically fulfilled.
A lot of guys aren’t bad at having sex simply because they don’t know how to move or position their bodies during intercourse. Many guys are considered bad at sex when they’ve become use to performing in only one or two ways. Usually, the ways in which their ex enjoyed having sex is how the man’s body is trained to please his other partners. If he existed in a monogamous relationship for an extended period of time, the man simply hasn’t become use to filling the needs of a different individual. In this case, it is best that you take charge. Initially, as the sheet session begins, lead the pace and style of the intercourse. Let him fill in the middle; literally and figuratively. You, however, create the outline of everything that goes down during that particular encounter.
Also, it’s a very good idea to ask your man to touch himself in your presence. Allow him to feel as comfortable stroking and massaging his private areas in your company, as he does when he’s alone. A lot of men have intense solo sessions because they feel most relaxed and at ease when they aren’t worried about pleasing another individual. If your man begins to associate you with situations that are sexual, intense and void of any pressures, he’s more likely to perform to a higher degree. A man truly does physically deliver when he is most comfortable. As he touches himself in front of you, pay attention to the areas where he uses his hands most often. This will not only help you learn his X spots, but you will begin to understand why he focuses on certain parts of your body instead of others. Men often assume that what they enjoy sexually, their partners do as well.
Most men aren’t strictly focused on the nut when it comes to engaging with their partner. Most men really do want to please their mate as much as their mate wishes to please them. If he truly respects and cares for you, he honestly will be open to your advances. Your method of handling the issue of his ‘bad sexual habits’ doesn’t have to be a direct, abrupt conversation. You can try some of the methods that Ive suggested in order to experience sexual satisfaction.
After all, if your man truly is good to you in every other aspect of the relationship, you will want to keep him in your life, long term. Sex can be definitive in making that final decision. However, your man’s bedroom performance can be refined by simply telling him to please you, leading the sheet sessions or making him feel that he can explore his body in your company. Once your man feels totally secure around you, he will want to share his most intense passions with you.
Often times, that creates the difference between bad and mind blowing sex.